Navigating ADHD in Marriage: Communication & Grace (feat. Jess DuBose)

About Marriage LLC

Join Host Ben Surratt on the Marriage LLC Podcast as he welcomes marriage experts, business owners, and inspiring couples for real conversations about balancing love and work. Together, they explore how the core skills of running a business—like communication, adaptability, and purpose—translate into building strong marriages. Whether you’re navigating the challenges of entrepreneurship with your spouse or simply looking for insights to strengthen your relationship, this podcast offers practical advice, heartfelt stories, and valuable takeaways for creating balance and purpose, together.

Episode Summary

In this powerful and personal episode, Ben Surratt sits down with ADHD coach and author Jess DuBose to explore how ADHD shows up in marriage—and how grace, self-awareness, and clear communication can transform the way couples navigate it. Jess opens up about lessons from her own marriage and divorce, reframing common ADHD misunderstandings, and learning how to love without trying to "fix" each other. Together, they unpack what it really means to work as a team—both in love and in life—even when your brains work differently. Whether ADHD is in your household or not, this conversation offers practical tools and deep insights for building a relationship grounded in compassion, clarity, and shared purpose.

✨ Highlights & Takeaways

• ADHD isn't a deficit—it's a difference. Understanding how attention regulation, not attention lack, impacts communication is essential.

• Clarity is kind. Whether you're asking for help, giving feedback, or setting expectations—be specific.

• Miscommunication isn’t always about words. Learn your partner’s processing style (internal vs. external), and don’t confuse distraction with disinterest.

• It’s not you vs. your partner—it’s you two vs. the problem. Shift from blame to collaboration.

• Rest looks different for everyone. Jess introduces her 7 Types of Rest framework—reminding us that true rest isn’t always stillness.

• Money, time, and intimacy all carry emotional weight. Talk about what safety looks like for each of you, not just strategy.

• Don’t live in the Drama Triangle. Replace the roles of victim, villain, and hero with creator, challenger, and coach.

• Planning ≠ Connection. Keep logistics in their lane—set a weekly 10–20 minute planning meeting, and reserve the rest of your time for real connection.

📚 Resources Mentioned in This Episode

MAGIC: Magnificent ADHDers Growing In Community
A $10/month space for ADHDers to gather, connect, and grow—without the pressure. Includes monthly group coaching calls, hot seat coaching, and a private community platform.
https://magicadhd.com/

📖 I Don’t Hate My Ex-Husband
Part love story, part grief story, part self-trust revolution. A raw and real look at what it means to love someone—and yourself—deeply.
https://www.amazon.com/I-Dont-Hate-My-Ex-Husband/dp/B08BDXM764

🛌 Rest Like a Rebel: 7 Types of Rest for ADHDers Who Don’t Want to Sit Still
This isn’t your average rest course. Bite-sized videos, real talk, and rest experiments that honor your energy. For ADHDers who can’t stand stillness culture.
https://jessdubose.com/rest